Grandparents throw big barbecue for family and friends, grandson's girlfriend refuses to attend after they ask her to be the family photographer for free: 'I specifically booked that weekend off'

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    "It's for family, I wouldn't pay you because I thought you'd just do it to be nice"
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    AITA For Not Agreeing to Work at a Family Event

    I (25f) work two jobs, one being a business I own and have built from the ground up for the last year and a half. My partners parents recently invited me to a barbecue with some of his family
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    that his grandparents are hosting, friends of his grandparents are also going to be there. I was really excited to go to this as his grandparents are really sweet and we
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    get on well. So I made sure I specifically booked that weekend off of both jobs to ensure I could go. I stayed round my partners recently and his mum said she had offered my
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    services to his grandparents on the day of the barbecue. It was more like she assumed I'd be okay with it as I'd not been asked if I was able to do it and there was no mention of payment.
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    I'd have to get public transport the morning of the barbecue (2hrs) with all of my equipment, perform the services at the barbecue, then take everything home
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    and there would be more to be done once home that could take a few days. So that's 4hrs travel, with expected products and services, and is likely not be
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    able to actually enjoy the barbecue as I'd be working. But it would all be unpaid. I mentioned to my partner that I've got reservations about doing this, but I'm
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    worried in TA because it'll cause arguments between us or between myself and his family AITA for not wanting to mix business with barbecue?
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    Edit 1 I thought my partner was on my side but after comments such as "it's just a few photos" and a plethora of excuses on his part, I told him I'd not be going to
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    the barbecue, and if it is "just a few photos" then he can take them on his phone (iPhone 11) as he claims it's not important.
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    I told him he either needed to ask questions to understand why it's important from a business perspective or to just deal with it because he sent me a
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    message saying "It's not even that much of an ask. it's just taking a few photos and I thought it would just be a favor but if your thinking about how your just
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    affected by loosing out on money when it's not even a work day, it's for family, ngl I wouldn't pay you cause I thought you'd just do it to be nice. dw about it
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    cause it just seems like you'd want to be paid for it. I get that it would be long to sort out like you wouldn't even have to edit a lot them. it was just for my grandad but it's chill if it's too much"
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    So I said I'd speak to him when he's being more reasonable as it felt like a major guilt trip and I'm not here for it.
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    NYCStoryteller NTA. Tell him you're not bringing your expensive equipment to a family barbecue. You thought you were being invited as a way to grow your relationship with his family and to get to know people, not to be an event photographer. I would
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    tell him that I'd be happy to take some candid snaps on my phone and do some minor photo editing, but that the point of going would just be to spend time with him and get to know them, and he shouldn't have offered anything more than that.
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    boba_boba2000 OP I decided to do the math to see how much I'd spent on the equipment that I'd be required to bring and it was £1650. That's the camera, lenses, camera bag, SD cards and reader, batteries, laptop, iPad, laptop bag etc. bearing in mind I got most of this refurbished or secondhand.
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    Fun_Ideal_5584 Sure, let me take a few pictures with your IPHONE.
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    Street_State_4447 Do not let her get away with volunteering your time. This is how it starts, OP.
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    Dana07620 Tell your partner to explain to his mom that you won't be doing that. His family. His problem to solve.
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    Ok_Play2364 If you do this, I guarantee other relatives will ask for free photo shoots. Baby pictures, graduation, everyone will want free stuff

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